People look back over terrible things that happened to them and say in the end it was worth it.

There is a difference between you saying that about your life but you have no right to influence others to say that about theirs.  So religion and the Bible are bad for saying different.

They forget the plural.  They think they had an experience over time that was worth it in the end.  They did not.  They had experiences.  The horror of some of them will have faded. 

Now its cheating to say something was worth it just because things are good now.  It was luck that got you through it.   If you lose your leg to save your life, that does not make it worth it.  It means that many factors worked in spite of that and they are what is worth it.

Reject "everything happens for a reason".  Soon you get blind to how terrible something is and will be.  Its a flippant thing to say to anybody.  You are not privy to what their suffering is like for them.

Everybody should have some cut off point: if x happens then I will deny that everything has a good or okay purpose.  That is only honesty and openness.

Belief in God who makes all and owns all rules that out so God is a bad belief and you cannot preach it without harming at least some.

Plus nobody tells you what the reason is for sure.  And a reason is too neat.  Why don't they say reasons?  Each event and each thing is not a thing but a collection of things.  Focusing on one thing as the reason could be focusing on what you think is the reason and you miss out on the real reasons or on the consolation of seeing the better ones.

"God will never give you more than you can handle" blames the person and judges the person if he or she cannot handle it.  The close relative, "Faith helps you face all trials", does the same thing.  It gets the person to blame themselves.  And who gave you the right to speak for God and to speak in this situation?