We like the idea of being loved no matter what.  In fact many of us will never do anything that bad so why should we care?  We will care if we fall for the religious notion that we have done awful things to the God who loves us and even nailed his son to the cross by our sins.  We will care if we think there is a God.  We fear the idea that some being makes all and rules all so we deal with it by saying he loves us no matter what. 

Unconditional love is a huge thing in people's consciousness. But how useful is the idea? This love by asking you to think of the person, not what kind of person they are, is asking you to abuse yourself by silencing the messages your mind sends you when it makes you feel resentful, afraid or angry about somebody's behaviour towards you. It is frankly extreme if you really will love a person who murders the whole neighbourhood just the same as if they were a saint and without that love changing or lessening. It is not natural to be unaffected by what another does especially then. Unconditional love is so hard that it will make you unhappy for you will fail. It also sets you up to fail and fail big. It will make you sacrifice and destroy yourself for another. Also it is silencing something that is trying to protect you by diagnosing a problem or making you aware. You need boundaries to be safe and unconditional love is trying to hammer them down. The idea of excellent love is better than unconditional love. it means you are aware of the dangers but protect yourself but don't give up on the person. You affirm your right to keep the boundaries you need and which often take you years to create.

Unconditional love is turned into an ideal and attraction for I want to be loved unconditionally. But that is selfish for the reasons given. Also, the spiritual culture brainwashes us to feel we are evil if we do not love like that.

The gospel of unconditional love is just a collection of manipulative tactics. Deception. Withholding emotional support. Guilt tripping. Judging. That is what that gospel is doing to you no matter how good it is for the other. And the love you have for the other is odd when you are setting that person an example to let the same abuse happen to them in the name of love.

If unconditional love is bad for us it is bad if it is what others believe in and it is extremely bad if it is what God is about  God could create beings that do not need him emotionally. But he does. Is this not like the evil partner telling their mate, "You are so insecure and needy. Look how you need me. You are helpless without me."